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please, how do i fix low self esteem? having an epiphany i am my biggest critic and it's killing me that i can't even accept compliments, my immediate reaction is to deny and move on

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I'm also my biggest critic and was raised in a culture where you don't really accept compliments. Went through a few months where it was tougher so before I went to sleep I said 3 things I was proud of myself that day and found it helped me a lot I know you didn't ask, but fwiw I love the products you've built

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Also struggle w/ this, the best answer I’ve found (esp since you sound driven and self-critique is constant for such people) is find friends to keep you grounded and remember where you started. Also remembering wisdom/life is accrued Really enjoy following your web apps + look up to that shredded work ethic, ngl.

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What a powerful epiphany — that you're able to recognize not only the problem, but your own limitations as well, leads me to the mind that you're: - perceptively introspective and self-aware, and - deeply capable of honoring and nurturing your own self-esteem over time Keep it up 👑

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the best compliment we must learn to accept is ourselves 🫂easier said than done (speaking for myself) - take good care

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"Self-esteem is reputation you have with yourself." Sorry you're going through this, I don't have a solution, but I thought I'd share this quote that comes to mind.

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A real simple answer that I always return to: You have to always be your own biggest cheerleader.

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Carlos Matallín

Who needs self-steem when you’re fucking ripped? (This is meant to gas you up)

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If a person is number one in the industry in some aspects, do you think he will feel inferior at that time?

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You're not alone! Not sure if this is a contrarian take but I think it's functionally impossible to will yourself into improving self-esteem. Instead it comes from building proof/evidence of things you're proud of yourself for over time, acknowledging those wins and the momentum that comes from that

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I have been working on this in therapy for a while! Sooo many learnings and still so much farther to go. Happy to share more on it :) This is one thing I've learned as someone with a very harsh internal critic from therapy: https://warpcast.com/heavygweit/0xa14246af

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For me it’s spending less time on social media. Too easy to be self critical if you’re constantly comparing yourself to people online.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oHcsXkV6Ilk

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"thank you for saying that"

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Try to get past the idea that you need to "fix" something about yourself. This mindset is not only disparaging, but it creates a binary state. If it's 1 or 0 then you'll never be able to feel good about where you are, even as you improve. When can you say you're "fixed"? Embrace the process, not outcome, of growth 🌱

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Sam (crazy candle person) ✦

It will take time, but you have to start accepting compliments by saying thank you. You can accept their opinion but it doesn’t have to be your own. You can also write some positive things about yourself and put it on a bathroom mirror.

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Been there; lo siento… being in nature really helps me; just walking amongst the trees; listening to birds; along a beach; in the mountains; all of it fills me with appreciation, for self and humanity

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Oh, something @sam said above triggered a thought for me, around the conscious act "accepting the compliment." There's an evolutionary quirk that has us prioritise negative things to positive things (which makes sense, the neg thing gonna kill ya, so pay attention). I forget the numbers, but it's like 20...

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Daniel Lombraña

“I’m constantly amazed by how easily we love ourselves above all others, yet we put more stock in the opinions of others than in our own estimation of self. . . . How much credence we give to the opinions our peers have of us and how little to our very own!” —MARCUS AURELIUS

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Maybe you can tyr reading《What Life Should Mean to You》，this book once healed me.

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