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went camping with a bunch of dads this summer and decided i want kids 30 years of being staunchly opposed, and it more or less vanished after one weekend in the woods with a bunch of guys that were only there to escape the obligations they'd created for themselves and i... decided i want that been processing it for weeks now, but i haven't talked myself out of it yet anyone else have a change of heart about kids later in life?

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I was always like 60% sure I wanted to be a parent, though I had some doubts as I kinda lacked a good parental figure growing up. Then one day my wife and I found out we were expecting, but the gravity didn’t land until 9 months later. Unequivocally the best day of my life was becoming a father.

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Can't speak for anyone else and won't make recommendations or anything like that. But personally, I never thought I'd have a family of my own. Even after getting married I always thought I'd screw it up being a father. But I had my daughter and she was very sick and I just went full Dad mode. Months of being with her at night in the hospital and then work during the day. When she finally came home, she'd be on my chest with me in meetings or watching TV or walking around outside or whatever... and man, I'd literally give anything, anything to do that again. Being a Dad fills your heart.

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Others have covered the positives so I'm not going to sugarcoat this. Be prepared to put your entire life on hold indefinitely/be ready to adopt a completely different lifestyle, be fully committed and completely selfless, be aware that your relationship will change with your partner, that your body will change (if you're a woman), that you won't have time to do the things you used to, that they don't come with a manual, that education is hard, and being a role model is hard, and being what they need you to be is hard. Being a parent is the hardest job in the world. It may also be the most rewarding. Also, as much as I've tried, until you become one, it's impossible for me to convey and for you to truly understand exactly what it's like.

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Parenting is the most challenging, rewarding, stressful, joyful, frustrating but sweet experience I’ve ever encountered. There are really no words to describe the feeling. Love evolves into a new dimension. There’s no sacrifice that is too much for your kids… your life doesn’t matter to you in the same way. As I said, a new dimension.

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I’m here for the replies. My daughter is 23. I wanted a few kids but 9/11 fvcked me up and we decided not to have more. I loved being a mom more than anything but wholeheartedly appreciate all the reasons people opt out. I trust your judgment especially because of your reluctance

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eirrann | he/him🎩🔵

I was adamantly against being a dad until after about 7 years married to my wife She made it clear to me that she wanted us to start a family and it would break her heart if I didn't change my stance Took me a while, but I eventually found room in my heart Today, we have a preteen I believe that folks who don't want kids shouldn't have them I also know first-hand that it's possible to change your mind It's the best decision I've ever made, because I made it for the right reasons

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I always knew I'd be a dad at some point and was thrust into parenting a three-year-old because of my gf at the time. I didn't really feel an emotional/mental shift until my son was born seven years later though. Holding a newborn is totally different...life shifts into another perspective. A lot of the bullshit of life just didn't matter. At all. My son's eight now, which is weird to think about. Our teenager will be graduating in three years which is nuts. Despite the challenges, I wouldn't give up being a parent for anything.

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I was opposed to having kids until my wife said “I’m pregnant”. fast forward 18 years and it’s the greatest thing that has happened to me. when someone asks me to describe myself I usually start with “dad”

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speaking for myself: the right person changes things (I have two daughters now)

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The idea scared me for years, even up to the point my first son was born. We have two bboys now and they're the best thing that has ever happened to me. Being a dad is awesome.

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I didn't want kids basically my entire 20s. My girlfriend (wife today) tried to convince me for years and I came up with reasons not to & then it finally just happened on accident. We were sleeping in a tent (van/travel life was the life at the time) when we got the call & found out she was pregnant. Neither of us were really ready but we made shit happen & fast. Our son is turning 2 in a couple months & neither of us could be happier. Having a kid is honestly awesome 👌 Life didn't really change much either. We still move & find new careers when we're bored. Planning on another in a couple years 💯 A lot of people think their careers define their lives, like its the most important aspect, but that's bullshit. Raising good humans is the most rewarding & impacting part of our lives ✔️

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I knew I wanted to be a dad for a really long time before it happened. I love being a father more than anything I've ever done, but I would never recommend it to anyone who was "on the fence" It's one of those things that's only amazing if you really really want it and sucks for everyone involved if you don't.

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you'll be a great father 🤝

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I obviously can't say for sure, but that sounds like a good group of dads to hang around. Being a dad is a fundamentally different frame and lens on reality. Good on your for being open to it.

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walked by a campfire at 4am during a 3 day music fest and sat down next to a dad and he described some of the best moments of his life with his son. he was so beat up and was wrangling 3 kids with his wife, and what he shared with me actually swayed me to the wanna have kids side

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It doesn't matter how much money you make or how many chicks you screw if you don't nurture life either through either having kids or adoption or something similar your life means nothing.

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