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Something I was thinking about as I was taking a walk w/ @ismene today: I'm overwhelmed by this desire, to help my kids succeed. Ofc I want the best for them. I don't want them to worry or stress too much, I want them to be happy and not be too stressed. Many plants, in the face of extreme cold, or dryness stop growth. Then there's a type of plant, called extremophytes. While most plants produce a stress hormone that acts like a stop signal for growth, with extremophytes, in the face of stressful factors, it accelerates its growth in response to its own stress hormone. Danger is a fertile ground for growth, of course it is dangerous for a reason, and shouldn't be taken lightly. But loving my kids perhaps is going to be sometimes about letting go of this desire to control and engineer success for them at all costs. At times, they are going to have to face stress and become their own person, and solve their own problems Yeah, this is going to be a lot harder than I thought

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Here's more about extremophytes: https://extremeplants.org/what-is-an-extremophyte/

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The challenge is, how do you expose children to _true_ hardship when they know they have good parents and a safety net?

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I think the only safety net they need is knowing you love them and are proud to get to watch their journey and that feeling is not tied to any outcome they create. That should free their sails to go full speed into the great unknown. Then again what do I know lol, I don’t have any kids! Just speaking to what I remember from being a kid.

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your desire for protection is perfectly understandable. I have three daughters and each of them is different from the other, with different goals and different reactions to stress. It is impossible to find a method by which everyone can be happy without problems. When they were little I was overprotective and I tended to plan their future but when their individuality began to mature I understood that everything I did was useless because I was torn by the fact that I also wanted them to be free to choose. The most important thing of all is to always, always let them know that no matter what, you are there for them. No matter what.

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I feel that; definitely difficult. Two thoughts (assuming young kids; sorry if it comes off patronizing): The longer we tightly engineer circumstances, the more it works against them in the long term: we delay their development and it’s hard to see how they’re truly developing. It looks like success, but since it’s externally engineered, they could easily be in over their heads; the success is not their own. They have success, but are not successful. I think if it like a spectrum: Early on, you can control whereas later, you have to create an environment, and later still simply give context. Sooner than you think, they’ll end up in a situation that you haven’t/couldn’t have engineered. We want them to be well-prepared for that.

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Thanks for sharing and expressing this

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you’ve highlighted the biggest challenge and difference between parenting styles, very well thought out and stated, so hard to know the right balance, the irony is that those parents that are extreme on one end of the spectrum, often drive their children to live a life on the opposite spectrum. Give them everything or make them figure it out on their own. I may be simplifying what you stated, but I resonate with your thoughts on the matter. Never easy to know what type and combination of love works best. And it’s different for every child, happy 4th of @july 100 $degen

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beautifully-stated 🤌

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Tagging myself here for later :)

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moments of humanity

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Outsource this to uncles, Scouts, sports, etc. so your parental protective instincts don't get in the way.

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Philosophical. It's great that you're thinking that far for your kids. I'm intrigued by you.

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As one wise man said: the less you think, the better you sleep.🫡

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