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@jihad
i’m consistently surprised by the amount of people that just don’t know how to have a conversation. they don’t pay attention. they don’t try to understand what you really mean, just what they think you should mean. they ask questions out of formality vs. curiosity. what a sad life to live
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Oliver
@timewarp
Where are you interacting w those ppl? Is it predominantly online? I find the opposite on my end but I rarely break from my nuclear circle of coworkers, friends, and family
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jd 🌺
@jdl
people living life like a finite game. you loathe to see it
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logonaut.eth 🎩🍖↑🔄
@logonaut.eth
i have had this same experience, and i suspect it's a significant contributor to my growing "misanthropy" over the past decade or so. so many treat irl connection as if they are main characters phoning in a contractually obligated performance in which you are merely a supporting character in their hero's journey. the only shot at get anything resembling meaningful engagement is to ask them about themselves. Little or no effort to be present otherwise, or to hit the conversational ball back over the net even when you lob it right to them. i'm an introvert and these kinds of interactions sap my energy to such a degree that avoiding them feels like necessary self-protection. maybe i'm the problem ... but i also was a working journalist for a number of years, and i got to be pretty good at connecting with lots of different people and asking often open-ended questions to elicit responses. what you describe — and what i often experience — feels very different: like being ghosted face-to-face, in real time.
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Zach
@zd
most people don’t actively listen, so they don’t actually hear you, so they haven’t picked up anything to ask you about if more people learned to actively listen, conversations would be 10x more interesting
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nick
@nickysap
This is why obligatory social interaction is so painful for some of us. When people say, “I hate small talk,” they either say that because it’s mind numbing (PCs) or because it causes them anxiety to hold a conversation outside their base programming (NPCs). There’s a reason many video game protagonists are silent.
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Treshy
@treshypearl
This is so true. Real conversations are becoming rare. People no longer listen to understand but to reply😔 This is a very red flag especially in the dating scene. Such a sad reality😔
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Juliettemeon 🎩
@juliettemeon.eth
I believe it’s the biggest issue in most relationships, even at the family level !
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