on desktop, when i connect wallet - half the time it defaults to another wallet (e.g. metamask) that i dont want to use. say I want to use my rabby wallet, it takes several tries and a lot of luck for that to pop up. 

i sometimes have to "disable the extension" to finally force quit that extension pop up.

doing consumer crypto things /blocktower,  big /snackcaster nf.td/winnie 

i wish apps could remember which wallet i want for that specific app. 

when i'm doing things in defi, i like to use my rabby. when i do things in more consumer world, i like to use my cb wallet / phantom.

The only workaround I've found for this is to use multiple browsers and extensions specific to that browser

Brave = Rainbow (though it has its own wallet feature)
Chrome = Coinbase Wallet
Firefox = Metamask

I use different browsers for different purposes. Clunky initially but then it's simple

yeah but that’s so annoying. I don’t want to be navigating to new browsers just to do something new. 

Also, I already partition browsers based on work/personal wallets.