on desktop, when i connect wallet - half the time it defaults to another wallet (e.g. metamask) that i dont want to use. say I want to use my rabby wallet, it takes several tries and a lot of luck for that to pop up. 

i sometimes have to "disable the extension" to finally force quit that extension pop up.

doing consumer crypto things /blocktower,  big /snackcaster nf.td/winnie 

i wish apps could remember which wallet i want for that specific app. 

when i'm doing things in defi, i like to use my rabby. when i do things in more consumer world, i like to use my cb wallet / phantom.

yeah but that’s so annoying. I don’t want to be navigating to new browsers just to do something new. 

Also, I already partition browsers based on work/personal wallets.

The only workaround I've found for this is to use multiple browsers and extensions specific to that browser

Brave = Rainbow (though it has its own wallet feature)
Chrome = Coinbase Wallet
Firefox = Metamask

I use different browsers for different purposes. Clunky initially but then it's simple

yes even if all wallet extensions are set to "when you click the extension" with one "on all sites", when you need another one sometimes will have to refresh and refresh