Wen

@shiwen

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I guess they should be called pan fried soup dumplings

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Thank you! We don’t really celebrate, but it’s more so a day off for parents while toddler still has daycare

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Yes! To be honest, I kill more of those than the soup dumplings

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Diwali soup dumplings with @jachian

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How my bilingual 2.5yo matches print to spoken language

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I always joke with my coworkers that I feel like on vacation when I’m at work

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I appreciate your time to read and share your points. To me, a toddler not ready to share is not a “wrong” behavior. What about thinking it this way: Someone else “is not ready to share RIGHT NOW and it’s ok. You may also have a moment like this and it’s ok. Let’s try something else right now and ask him/her another time.”

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Thanks for sharing your points. Sharing is great! For me, I always give my toddler choices. In terms of sharing or not sharing, I present both choices to her without encouraging her to pick one over the other. Encouraging sharing is a more dominant message she gets from daycare and will continue to get from the world. At some point, she will learn to follow social rules and expectations. Before that, I want her to first learn how to be true to her feelings while not hurting others’ feelings.

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I’m glad! I definitely want to encourage my child to share, but also afraid of her expecting everyone else to share with her. I’ve been modeling her the appropriate ways to decline someone. When I do encourage sharing, I make sure I give reasons and respect her decision no matter what.

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I don’t tell my toddler to “share”. Why? First of all, toddlers are just not developmentally ready for the concept of sharing. Even as adults, are we really cool with sharing??? @jachian one time got upset with me because I ate the top of a croffin that we were supposed to be “sharing”. 🤷🏻‍♀️ However, we hear these a lot: “You gotta share with your friends.” “Be nice. Share it with your sister.” Kids are being DEMANDED to share. If we tell them “sharing is caring”, then does “not willing to share” mean “not caring”? Does it make them bad kids? Not at all. I don’t want my child to take sharing for granted. Yes, it’s ok if you are not ready to share YET. Yes, it’s ok when someone else is not sharing. Yes, it’s ok to say “I prefer playing by myself”. Yes, it’s ok when someone says “no” to you. Yes, ALL of these are OKAY.

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Saturday morning dim sum ritual

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Got in a late night climb with @shiwen last night and I managed to take down a 10C

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Interesting thoughts! I don’t have any say about programming languages. Would like to know more if you ever decide to try it out 😆

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A daily conversation with my 2.5yo: 2.5yo: I want a lot of water! All water! (Right after her night bottle of 6oz milk) Me: You have two✌️options. One☝️ is to not drink any water and go brush teeth. The second ✌️option is to drink a little bit water before brushing teeth. 2.5yo: Two! ✌️ Sometimes clearly stating two options works (a known behavior management strategy). Sometimes. Last night, she wanted me to put on a bag and play with her. 2.5yo: Mama, you have two options. One is to put on this bag and play with me. Two is not put on this bag. Which one do you want? Me: Two. 2.5yo: No! You choose one! You want ONE!

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Curious in what language? My 2.5yo has a clear preference of using English, but when she counts in Chinese after 10. 😆

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Higher athletics yoga challenge day 1 with @jachian

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Adults are more cognitively aware of the our own learning experience and are more capable to reflect/adjust in the process. This is also partially why I think I can stay cool if my child doesn’t want to speak Chinese now or in the near future. When she wants to, she can pick up something of her choice in adulthood.

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As a “trying-to-be-good” parent, I find it hard to not have any expectations when being invested in all aspects of my child’s life. Parenting is a self improving journey, too.

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