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I don’t tell my toddler to “share”. Why? First of all, toddlers are just not developmentally ready for the concept of sharing. Even as adults, are we really cool with sharing??? @jachian one time got upset with me because I ate the top of a croffin that we were supposed to be “sharing”. 🤷🏻‍♀️ However, we hear these a lot: “You gotta share with your friends.” “Be nice. Share it with your sister.” Kids are being DEMANDED to share. If we tell them “sharing is caring”, then does “not willing to share” mean “not caring”? Does it make them bad kids? Not at all. I don’t want my child to take sharing for granted. Yes, it’s ok if you are not ready to share YET. Yes, it’s ok when someone else is not sharing. Yes, it’s ok to say “I prefer playing by myself”. Yes, it’s ok when someone says “no” to you. Yes, ALL of these are OKAY.

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This is a relief to read My toddler voluntary shares without me saying anything most of the time, but I have felt compelled to ask him to share other times and tbh I don't know why that is Maybe because we tend to mirror other parents at the playground, and subconsciously follow these patterns

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I get the point you're trying to make, but I think you're looking at it from the wrong pair of lenses. Look at it this way, these years are their formation years, so you get to mold them in a way you, their parent, think is best. I believe its important to encourage them to share as toddlers, then as they grow older you make them understand that sometimes they may not feel like sharing and that it's ok, it doesn't make them bad. I guess the point I'm trying to make it that at the toddler stage, they shouldn't be given much choices but guidance, then when they grow older and can think/understand/weight things for themselves, then they get to make choices.

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Funny thing is that as a kid, I don't think I ever shared anything at all, and I totally agree with what you say. It's a choice in the end, and if a kid learns this on their own, it becomes more natural

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It’s a balance - on one hand I want to nurture their kindness, and on the other hand I want them to learn their autonomy. I usually create situations where they share (ie you guys can share this muffin), or ask if they want to share. However if it’s their thing and they say no, I try to get the other to respect that

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Love this!! Learning to set boundaries and expectations is important. I think “sharing” is a subtle one that gets unnoticed

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And: it's also cool to share.

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