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Wen
@shiwen
I don’t tell my toddler to “share”. Why? First of all, toddlers are just not developmentally ready for the concept of sharing. Even as adults, are we really cool with sharing??? @jachian one time got upset with me because I ate the top of a croffin that we were supposed to be “sharing”. 🤷🏻♀️ However, we hear these a lot: “You gotta share with your friends.” “Be nice. Share it with your sister.” Kids are being DEMANDED to share. If we tell them “sharing is caring”, then does “not willing to share” mean “not caring”? Does it make them bad kids? Not at all. I don’t want my child to take sharing for granted. Yes, it’s ok if you are not ready to share YET. Yes, it’s ok when someone else is not sharing. Yes, it’s ok to say “I prefer playing by myself”. Yes, it’s ok when someone says “no” to you. Yes, ALL of these are OKAY.
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Vinay Vasanji
@vinayvasanji.eth
This is a relief to read My toddler voluntary shares without me saying anything most of the time, but I have felt compelled to ask him to share other times and tbh I don't know why that is Maybe because we tend to mirror other parents at the playground, and subconsciously follow these patterns
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Wen
@shiwen
I’m glad! I definitely want to encourage my child to share, but also afraid of her expecting everyone else to share with her. I’ve been modeling her the appropriate ways to decline someone. When I do encourage sharing, I make sure I give reasons and respect her decision no matter what.
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Alberto Ornaghi
@alor
Teaching to share is very different to expecting other will share too. I see a good opportunity here to teach that others may behave wrongly but we have to be morally stronger and don’t give in to “if others are bad, I can be bad as well”.
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Wen
@shiwen
I appreciate your time to read and share your points. To me, a toddler not ready to share is not a “wrong” behavior. What about thinking it this way: Someone else “is not ready to share RIGHT NOW and it’s ok. You may also have a moment like this and it’s ok. Let’s try something else right now and ask him/her another time.”
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