Maretus on Warpcast

Content pfp

0 reply

0 recast

0 reaction

Maretus pfp

Success Topic of the Day: Learning to say No How do you decide when to say no to something? Is it tough for you, or does it help you stay focused and get shit done? I am a people pleaser and I have always struggled to advocate for myself. Learning to say No has been a really powerful way to take back my time. What about you?

95 replies

46 recasts

126 reactions

arob.base.eth🍖🎩 pfp

arob.base.eth🍖🎩

I struggled saying no while at work initially but I’m now very conscious of my workload and will only take something on if I have the time to give it 100% and enthusiasm for the project. Learned the hard way but realized that more work does not mean more recognition. Caliber of work on impactful projects is where you’ll get recognized, even if the time commitment isn’t huge.

2 replies

1 recast

8 reactions

Just Build pfp

The day I realized that saying "Yes" to everything isn't about helping people, its about avoiding uncomfortable conversations. If you really want to help people, then be honest about what you are capable of. Saying "No" is a perfectly reasonable and responsible answer when you simply aren't capable of or interested in doing something.

2 replies

1 recast

5 reactions

Erik pfp

have gotten a lot better at this over the last few yrs opportunity cost to every “yes” - and as we value our time more this opportunity cost grows personally if it’s not a hell yes lfg, then it’s a no

1 reply

1 recast

6 reactions

The Dude Bart🐘🌳 ⌐◨-◨ pfp

The Dude Bart🐘🌳 ⌐◨-◨

hard agree dude. learning how to say no is extremely important. Took me a while to do it, but I think I'm getting better at it now! I used to find it really hard to say no because I didn’t want to disappoint anyone. As a people pleaser, I would always prioritize others’ needs over my own. But through my spiritual practice and meditation, I’ve learned to connect more deeply with my intuition and recognize when something doesn’t align with my values or priorities. Saying no isn’t about rejecting people; it’s about honoring my own boundaries and making space for what truly matters. It’s not always easy, but I’ve found that it helps me stay focused and grounded. It’s been empowering to take back my time and energy and direct them towards things that bring me joy, fulfillment, fun, or just experiences.

1 reply

1 recast

5 reactions

Smash Thunder Stone 🎩🏹🧾 pfp

Smash Thunder Stone 🎩🏹🧾

@smashthunderston

There should be a master's course in Self Advocation, it's not easy. It took me a while and I'm still working on it; setting personal boundaries is a big part of it, and just feeling good saying 'no I can't do that' is another part.

1 reply

1 recast

2 reactions

Cantus 🎩🍖Ⓜ️🎭 pfp

Cantus 🎩🍖Ⓜ️🎭

For me this topic is most relevant with my daughter. I am also a people pleaser especially with the people I love so it has definitely been a struggle learning to give her structure. I don’t want to be overbearing and we want her to feel like she can make decisions and have a voice so it’s a tough line to walk sometimes. I think it’s incredibly important for her to understand the value of patience and also to know that she can’t have and do everything she wants when she wants though so it’s a necessary process. I’m getting better at it…. Slowly 😄

1 reply

1 recast

2 reactions

Midnight Marauder Ⓜ️ pfp

Midnight Marauder Ⓜ️

@midnightmarauder.eth

Man are we related? I have the same problem and people seem to see us coming a mile away. My ability to say no has developed from getting burned by saying yes to the wrong person or project. Still a work in progress though.

1 reply

1 recast

3 reactions

itslemon.eth pfp

This is by far one of the things I have to coach people on the most. Most of the time, it's how to recognize burnout and when you have too much on your plate. The how to have the conversation with your manager about workload and how to successfully complete. And on the flipside how to accept that answer and prioritize.

2 replies

1 recast

2 reactions

OTTI🎨🖌 pfp

I’ve always struggled to say no to people especially people very close to me, because I’m always afraid I might hurt them, but I met someone special who taught me how to approach cases like that so these days I always do what I feel is best for me irrespective of how the other person feels, remember if you don’t take care of yourself you can’t take care of others :)

1 reply

1 recast

1 reaction

Ryan pfp

My wife and I are the same way, looking out for others and willing to lend a helping hand. Recently had a friend start to take advantage of us, asking for money, asking to borrow our cars because hers was unreliable. We tried to think of excuses, and finally we just said we need to say no. It’s felt like a weight was lifted from our shoulders and she actually got herself a new car and told us she has a plan to be paying us back over the next 3 months. So apparently she needed to hear that word also.

1 reply

1 recast

1 reaction

Mary 🎩 pfp

@thegoldenbright

It was great reading the replies and experiences of other As it seems everyone at some point struggles with saying no, many have overcome this, which is promising for the rest It's actually one of my problems as well I've been working on it by trying to reject requests indirectly - not saying no, but giving them reasons It works for the most part, but there are a few cases where the person who is asking you something just won't let go For example, it's a whole different topic that needs expertise and hours of study, but they just say "go learn about it from scratch and do me this favor" While I have a busier life than theirs, and they're offering nothing in return In this case, I've been avoiding them, and it seems to work, but I also feel like I'm running away from my problem...

1 reply

0 recast

1 reaction

Yatima pfp

Hi people, I'm Yatima and I'm also a people pleaser with problems to say no. 🫂 How do I handle it? It depends on the person I'm dealing with. If it's my partner, the red line would be where she asks me to cut off a hand or something. 😂 😂 Just kidding, we've been together a long time and we both know where each other's no's are. IRL I do 3D & VFX for film, tv, advertising, among other things. With my regular clients, some of them friends, I have no problems. They know that if the budget is high it's because the work is difficult. With new clients, I let the calculator make the decisions. What I do avoid is dealing with those people you may have met along the way, who detect us and try to take advantage like parasites.

1 reply

1 recast

2 reactions

deriniti 🎩🎭🍖✞ pfp

deriniti 🎩🎭🍖✞

omgosh yes! this is me, I am a people pleaser and I have not yet mastered the ability to say no.

1 reply

1 recast

2 reactions

hawaii pfp

@investanything

i’m pretty direct at work, so saying “no” is usually my first choice 🤣 outside the work…not easy ngl…

1 reply

1 recast

1 reaction

Ⓜ️oji🎭🟣⚡️💎 pfp

Ⓜ️oji🎭🟣⚡️💎

I used to be the kind of person who always put others first. However, when I realized that it was starting to negatively impact my own life, I decided to seek the help of a therapist to learn how to say no. I must say, not only has my life improved, but my mental health has also benefited greatly.

0 reply

1 recast

1 reaction

Rafaello.base.eth pfp

Rafaello.base.eth

I can’t say no,especially to people close to me, if it’s something I can do, then why not. But if it’s not within my power, I’ll tell them politely or give them advice

1 reply

0 recast

2 reactions

Odell Hussey pfp

@odellhussey.eth

Yes, a really good topic, we have all faced this many times in our lives, for me it was saying no to friends. I was a photographer & video creator – way before filmmaking was in our pockets with our phones. I would often help friends on projects. It was really hard to say no to them of course, but saying yes all the time I would have too much to do. My biggest lesson was one time, I had to lie to a friend, because I was working for another friend – so as not to hurt feelings, you know the story. It became a much bigger drama because I just didn’t say no & I lied, so not hurt feelings. Lesson learned: It's ok to say no sometimes, don't lie, & value your time. 🙏

1 reply

0 recast

1 reaction

Kevin | Rokke pfp

I still struggle to say no from time to time. Doesn't matter if it's at work, family or even friends 😬 I just want to disappoint no one and in doing so I disappoint myself sometimes..

0 reply

0 recast

1 reaction

Dante🎩 pfp

I found myself in the same situation as you, I could never say no because I am driven by always helping others and NO was not part of my vocabulary for a long time.

0 reply

0 recast

1 reaction