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Success Topic of the Day: Learning to say No How do you decide when to say no to something? Is it tough for you, or does it help you stay focused and get shit done? I am a people pleaser and I have always struggled to advocate for myself. Learning to say No has been a really powerful way to take back my time. What about you?

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have gotten a lot better at this over the last few yrs opportunity cost to every “yes” - and as we value our time more this opportunity cost grows personally if it’s not a hell yes lfg, then it’s a no

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I struggled saying no while at work initially but I’m now very conscious of my workload and will only take something on if I have the time to give it 100% and enthusiasm for the project. Learned the hard way but realized that more work does not mean more recognition. Caliber of work on impactful projects is where you’ll get recognized, even if the time commitment isn’t huge.

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hard agree dude. learning how to say no is extremely important. Took me a while to do it, but I think I'm getting better at it now! I used to find it really hard to say no because I didn’t want to disappoint anyone. As a people pleaser, I would always prioritize others’ needs over my own. But through my spiritual practice and meditation, I’ve learned to connect more deeply with my intuition and recognize when something doesn’t align with my values or priorities. Saying no isn’t about rejecting people; it’s about honoring my own boundaries and making space for what truly matters. It’s not always easy, but I’ve found that it helps me stay focused and grounded. It’s been empowering to take back my time and energy and direct them towards things that bring me joy, fulfillment, fun, or just experiences.

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This is by far one of the things I have to coach people on the most. Most of the time, it's how to recognize burnout and when you have too much on your plate. The how to have the conversation with your manager about workload and how to successfully complete. And on the flipside how to accept that answer and prioritize.

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For me this topic is most relevant with my daughter. I am also a people pleaser especially with the people I love so it has definitely been a struggle learning to give her structure. I don’t want to be overbearing and we want her to feel like she can make decisions and have a voice so it’s a tough line to walk sometimes. I think it’s incredibly important for her to understand the value of patience and also to know that she can’t have and do everything she wants when she wants though so it’s a necessary process. I’m getting better at it…. Slowly 😄

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Man are we related? I have the same problem and people seem to see us coming a mile away. My ability to say no has developed from getting burned by saying yes to the wrong person or project. Still a work in progress though.

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There should be a master's course in Self Advocation, it's not easy. It took me a while and I'm still working on it; setting personal boundaries is a big part of it, and just feeling good saying 'no I can't do that' is another part.

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i’m pretty direct at work, so saying “no” is usually my first choice 🤣 outside the work…not easy ngl…

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I still struggle to say no from time to time. Doesn't matter if it's at work, family or even friends 😬 I just want to disappoint no one and in doing so I disappoint myself sometimes..

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I found myself in the same situation as you, I could never say no because I am driven by always helping others and NO was not part of my vocabulary for a long time.

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@askgina.eth how to learn to say "no"?

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for work matters I usually just say yes haha I never refuse unless the job is beyond my capabilities then I refuse or maybe the work is hard and my body is not strong enough then I will refuse why I don't refuse because it is already part of my responsibility ... and outside of work it seems I always refuse I am a person who always wants to be free to do anything without receiving orders from anyone 🤣

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Another people pleaser here 🤚🏻 Been learning to do it since my mid 20s and although it has not been 100% successful, it has had a great impact on my life since I have been more consciously doing it.

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saying no (or yes) when you're not ready to make a decision is not a good thing. Something everyone should learn is that telling people that they need some time to think about it is okay. Many times the decision you are being pressured on is not time sensitive, but you are being made to feel that it is.

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For me, I've always been a "NO" guy, I said no to anything I don't want to. But my problem was that i said it out of anger, even the things I shouldn't say no to. Something i learned was; don't say no out of anger or hate, let it be of empathy. I'm so used to saying no till now though, i get lots of requests that i have to decline😅

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When I was younger, it was hard to say No to extra work load and even with family and friends.. but now, I kinda got the hang of saying No when I really don't have the energy and the brain cells to make an effort beyond what I can do

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Im also a people pleaser, and this topic makes me think about boundaries. the last years i have felt a lot of anger, often consequence of not being able to show up with solid boundaries (and healthy ones) with for example my daughter and the time that i devote to work vs being in my house taking care of house things. there is something that is not resolved there. and i see the incapacity that i have to say no: this is my time. i need this time. it is my time,’for me to decide what to do in it. often times it feels that not being able to establish that boundary is a consequence of not being able to properly say no to someone, and yes to yourself

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This is so relatable! As a physical therapist, I used to say yes to every patient, every extra shift, thinking it was the best way to show my dedication lol funny me. One day, I had back-to-back appointments and no time to breathe, let alone give each patient the attention they deserved. I finally had to tell my supervisor I couldn’t keep up that pace. It was tough, but it taught me that saying no isn’t about letting people down but sometimes it’s about maintaining quality care and your own well-being. But I still struggle with it outside of work—whether it’s friends asking for help when I’m drained or family expecting me to always be available. Saying no in those personal situations is much tougher for me, can't fight those yet😅 Have you been able to tackle yours thou

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I tend to be a people pleaser too. It is tough to say No for me. How I decide is usually through feeling. Yet to act upon my feeling and say no is tough. For example if I meet a stranger and we talk. And if I feel after some time, that this conversation is more draining for me, it is tough to Interrupt someone and say 'hey it was nice meeting you but I have to move one.' I am afraid of hurting the feelings of someone. I am afraid of rejecting someone yet the interesting part is, that at the same time I am scared that someone rejects me. So, I rarely approach someone. Yet, I am learning and if I can say no to something I feel how my confidence is leveling up.

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