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Lefteris Karapetsas

In a bit of a different feel than my other posts. I have a sort of rhetorical question? Anyone out there have any encouraging words/experience for people who separate after a long relationship with a kid in the middle? Do anti-social nerds get another chance at "love"? On the kid side ... how do separated parents try to shield the kid so it keeps living a normal life when both parents separate amicably and both love the kid more than anything in the world? Curious to hear if any people have experience here. Asking .. ehm ... for a friend 😢

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If it’s ended amicably that’s great — continue to work together to provide two happy home lives. Mine was not amicable but still ended up with a well adjusted kiddo through a lot of effort. And there’s always another chance at love. Sometimes I think we stay in awful situations because we convince ourselves that otherwise we won’t find someone else — or thinking it’ll be better to stay together for the kid—when the letting go was exactly the unlock we needed to find happiness. (at least for me)

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Speaking from personal experience as a child of separated parents: they split when I was 10, and it was amicable The key to maintaining a sense of normal was allowing me to see both parents as often as possible, without “visiting hours” or “your turn, my turn” setups. My parents lived in different homes but were always there when I needed them and came together for important moments like birthdays and parent-teacher meetings. I know it can be hard, don't hesitate in sliding in DMs if my perspective can help

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@degenveteran.eth

My situation isn't identical but. I was with someone while I was in the military. She left me after I signed a 6 year reenlistment contract with the military. Regardless of how good or bad the situation with the child you share... The way YOU act should always be the same... I no longer have a relationship with 3 of my children...Despite doing everything right for the children... She was the bad side of things... But... The focus should always be the same... What's best for the children... If you want to video chat hit up my DC's and we can discuss in a better way. This would also be good for me as well...

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I'm linking for you a transcript from a pay-walled podcast with Dr. Becky Kennedy: "Divorce Doesn’t Mess Kids Up" https://pastebin.com/Sivyia67 Along with some supporting public/free ones from her that are related and will help boost you w/ this: "Your value and Worth Live Inside You" https://open.spotify.com/episode/5sFNutMJoKIc3rTk8uliUR?si=7fe7d2f0d4444b3d "The Power of Letting Kids Struggle" https://open.spotify.com/episode/6KWb2XKuoYbl3KC4NXUdBc?si=2db7c30be42a43ab "When Talking To Kids About Hard Things, Choose Truth Over Comfort" https://open.spotify.com/episode/36jQpnSeJgCnoe1fCtPHyT?si=671c7fe6bd8c4ea6 Hope this helps! It won't be easy. It's not supposed to be. Happy to send along more resources. DCs are open.

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Been there. Has worked fine. DC me if you want.

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I can only share what my parents have told me: that children, no matter what age, can always tell if there’s serious friction at home, and if separation is the only way to keep peace, then that’s okay. stay strong! sending you all good energy

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First a gentle reminder: the love that matters isn’t about being someone more social or less nerdy, but about finding those who can see and appreciate you as you are, quirks and all. And sometimes, stepping into the unknown is actually the bravest and best thing you can do. On the parenting side, there’s so much importance for a child’s sense of safety and normalcy to be retained. I love Gabor Maté’s work in general but he has some great stuff on childhood development - children are super resilient when surrounded by emotionally present adults that continuously show up, regardless of external circumstances. Even if things change, they know their parents’ love is the constant. More here https://drgabormate.com/childhood-development-parenting/ Sending 🫶

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My nerdy parents divorced and found love again and TBH I wish they did it sooner than they did. I think your kid will be able to feel that the vibes are good and be ok. Loved supported kids are resilient.

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Sending love and healing energy. I don't have any good advise besides try to stay present for your kid as best you can but also forgive yourself for having hard days too. ❤️

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You’re already doing a good job by your kid if asking this question. I don’t have experience of separation but do have several kids and know that if you both take time for them, put them ahead of your own interests, and make them feel loved it’ll all work out.

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Sorry to hear that you're going through this. Be as nice as possible to your partner, even if it's sometimes hard to be, and yes kid first, but your happiness will be her happiness too. Take care. PS: do things, don't stop seeing people, be yourself.

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Are NFTs frames or windows

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This is a very complicated case, man. Lots of ins, lots of outs

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Going through a similar situation, have 3 year old in a relationship that hasn't been working for 3 years, trying to find a separation process that is minimally disruptive for the child but doesn't require unsustainable sacrifices, is really hard.. especially when the parents have really different ideas of what is best for the child. I don't think there's really a good answer it's just kind of a painful growing process where you do your best and remember to be grateful for all the good stuff

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Let's not get too uptight about this, man

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