Now that we're collectively in a bargaining phase of grief, two things can simultaneously be true:

1) someone can hurt you and shouldn’t be trusted again
2) they, like all humans, carry trauma and deserve compassion

The lesson here IMO is learning how to protect oneself without closing your heart and losing your tenderness

friendly neighborhood shitcaster / building @pinetree

i think that it is productive to learn how to integrate this after the fact, over learning how to protect yourself. the emotions that i have felt in the last two days have been important for me to feel, and if i had closed myself in the interactions that i had in the past with alex they wouldn't have been there

you never know who is on the other side. you can't predict this happening. you can only control how you personally relate to what happens downstream of its implosion imho