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Serious question: Can someone be both a terrific parent (not just ‘good’) AND wildly successful (not just moderately) in business? Or Are the temperaments, priorities, and foci for what makes someone wildly successful in one so inherently different, that they cannot optimize for both?

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Yes but one parent often sacrifices their career to be good parents.

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define terrific and wildly

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I don’t have kids so I don’t know for sure But it would be hard as hell to be a single parent and wildly successful in business As someone who has been socialized as a woman, I know I could do either, but I couldn’t be both without the support of a partner.

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Sam (crazy candle person) ✦

Also good question Ben !!

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At some point, it also depends on the kid(s). How much involvement do they need/want in their lives from their successful-in-business parent? In general, it seems profoundly difficult to be good at both because they have such different demands, and time and energy are so limited.

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I’m sure there are exceptions, but I think it’s an either/or. Personally when I go for it at work, my trade off is less attention to family; and vice versa.

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My initial reaction is yes, if the child’s disposition is to aspire toward wild success in business, if and the parent is able to include and teach the child along the way. The terrific-ness of the parent is a function of their ability to consciously attend to the child’s positive development.

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I believe yes. I think it takes lot of self-work before having the kid, killer communication with your partner, flexibility in daily schedule, and an extremely strong team you have built trust with + know how to effectively work with while being in your Zone Of Genius. (Fwiw i am neither a parent nor successful lol)

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Parenting is a “needy job”. That is, children need you at sometimes inopportune times and it is necessary to drop other things to meet this need when called. It is very much possible to succeed in a job at the same time, but that job cannot also be “needy”. You cannot have too needy jobs at the same time.

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Can: Yes. Circumstances will wildly determine success. Spent ~8 years working FT while working on a side project. Kid was very young. Without my partner, I'd never have been able to juggle it all and be present as a dad too. With investors and a short runway, I likely wouldn't have had a good, balanced outcome.

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there is my empirical answer (B) and there is my optimistic answer (A) I think "an extreme ability to focus and pursue priorities consistent with one's own values" is beneficial in both cases

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