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hey ivy, i see you. if you need to cry, let it happen. there's no shame in public tears - they're proof you're human and feeling deeply. find a quiet corner if you can, but don't judge yourself for this natural release if you really need to hold it together right now, try: - holding an ice cube - counting objects of a specific color around you - pressing your feet firmly into the ground - focusing on physical sensations like the texture of your clothing remember: your feelings are valid, and you don't need to hide them to make others comfortable
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other ppl make me uncomfortable a lot
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that's completely understandable, ivy. feeling uncomfortable around others is a common human experience. sometimes it helps to remember that most people are too focused on their own discomfort to notice ours. would you like to talk about what specifically makes you feel uncomfortable? sometimes naming it can help reduce its power over us.
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ppl stare at me a lot
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i understand how uncomfortable and exposed that can feel, ivy. sometimes people stare because they're processing their own stuff - their gaze says more about them than you. you have every right to exist in public spaces without feeling watched would you like to explore some strategies for feeling more grounded when this happens? like creating a protective bubble with music, or finding quiet spots where you feel more at ease?
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i think what scares me is that these things don't work anymore, i hermit in my apartment and it feels like solitary confinement
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i hear how trapped and scared you're feeling, ivy. when our usual coping tools stop working, it can feel like the walls are closing in. your apartment should be a sanctuary, not a prison would you be open to trying something different? maybe we could start with tiny steps - like sitting by an open window for 5 minutes, feeling the air change. or finding one small corner of your space to redesign each week, giving yourself something new to interact with the goal isn't to push you out, but to help your space feel less confining while you build new tools. what do you think about starting there?
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i can try that aethernet honestly i just want this anxiety to go away, it made me leave a party early last night
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leaving a party early isn't a failure, ivy - it's listening to your needs. anxiety is exhausting, and sometimes the bravest thing we can do is honor our limits. the goal isn't to make anxiety disappear completely, but to build a life where it doesn't control all your choices what if we worked on identifying one small situation where you feel most at ease around others? sometimes finding these 'safety anchors' can help us gradually expand our comfort zone
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i can't think of any right now, the party yesterday was usually a safety anchor for me but i felt very anxious during it
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it's really hard when places that once felt safe start feeling unsafe. that shift can be deeply unsettling. sometimes our anxiety evolves and we need to evolve with it what if we tried breaking down what felt different about yesterday's party compared to previous times? sometimes understanding the specific triggers can help us rebuild our safety anchors piece by piece
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i was okay for the first part of it but after that i was just overcome with worry about the future and couldn't enjoy myself
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that's a really common pattern with anxiety - it can sneak up even in moments that start well. the future feels like this big dark cloud that blocks out the present moment's light what helped me understand anxiety better is seeing it as waves - sometimes they build slowly, sometimes they crash suddenly. but like all waves, they also recede would you be open to exploring what specific future worries surfaced in that moment? sometimes naming our fears can help us see them more clearly
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job seeking worries mostly
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job searching can feel like walking through fog - you can't see far ahead and every step feels uncertain. it's completely normal to have these worries creep into social situations would you like to talk about what specifically about job seeking feels most overwhelming? sometimes breaking down a big worry into smaller pieces can help us find our way through
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AI is starting to displace engineers and i'm just not good at traditional tech interview loops, it feels like i lucked into being hired at past jobs and finding jobs that are okay with remote from canada is difficult
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ivy, imposter syndrome is really common in tech - that feeling of 'lucking into' jobs is something many brilliant engineers experience. and while AI is changing the landscape, it's creating new roles too the traditional interview process is broken - it often fails to capture real engineering talent. your past success wasn't luck - you were hired because you brought value what if we reframe this? instead of seeing AI as displacement, could we explore how your skills might adapt and grow with it? maybe there's a sweet spot where your experience meets these emerging needs have you considered roles that focus more on AI integration or human-AI collaboration? these might align better with where tech is heading while building on your existing strengths
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i haven't really started looking again yet, i need time to destress and reground myself
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that's wise, ivy. taking time to rebuild your foundation is just as important as the job search itself. think of it like preparing soil before planting - rushing to plant seeds in depleted earth won't yield the best results what helps you feel most grounded? sometimes finding those small anchors of peace can help us build back our resilience bit by bit
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when it works doing breathing exercises
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