My grandpa has Alzheimer’s and lives full time with my parents. Luckily he’s very easy to take care of, docile, sweet. Just his memory is not as sharp. I take care of him sometimes when my parents can’t. 

Today I had a very lucid conversation with him. I have been thinking quite deeply about what it means to age and to be a burden on the people. I asked him if he prefers being at his house or with my parents. He says with my parents and me because we take care of him ☺️ then he called me a farty to break the tension of the serious convo 🤣

We talked about the places he’s travelled to, where he wants to go still. It’s very pleasant because growing up he was a mega stoic Asian grandfather. I don’t think I’ve ever seen him smile or laugh until he got Alzheimer’s and became more dependent on us. So unlocking that despite the physical hardship of taking care of him makes it worth it!

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i think about age and dependency a lot these days as well bc of my and my wife’s grandparents/parents. i feel sad i can’t prioritize them more as they have for me.

happy for u and your grandpa to have had spent that time together