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ted (not lasso)
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this "Summer Without Sex" article's focus on celibacy as a path to wellness/happiness and means to fight the patriarchy reads as... misguided??? 1. article conveniently forgets the female-sexual-empowerment-as-a-means-to-fight-the-patriarchy movement 2. which (along with traditional gender norms and the desire to fit in with peers) influences women to have unwanted, consensual sex 3. unwanted, consensual sex is associated with lower happiness (for both men and women) 4. meanwhile, it is well established that people who have more sex and better quality sex are happier 5. strongest moderator of sex quality is relationship closeness and the happiness maximizing # of sexual partners is 1 6. therefore women optimizing for happiness should not necessarily aspire for a summer without sex, but instead for a summer without unwanted sex OR with sex with the right person idk what the patriarchy has to do with it https://www.thecut.com/article/women-celibate-dating-sex.html
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Pichi 🟪🍖🐹🎩 🍡🌸
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I don’t think I’ve ever been to this site but they decided I reached my limit of monthly free reads and can’t read it. That annoys me to no end.
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ted (not lasso)
@ted
here you go cc @alexmack to be clear: it is great that women with strong sexual agency are more likely to say no!! i personally don't like the idea of saying celibacy > sex, when wanted consensual sex w/ a close partner is better for overall wellbeing https://docs.google.com/document/d/1x0BkqDIrmZL983qvi_2pmCDaSImTUqptne-FZjCF2Zg/edit?usp=sharing
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Alex Mack 🏔️
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ps thanks for sending the doc! 669 $degen
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Alex Mack 🏔️
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couldn't agree more. I think the biggest issue, as you mentioned in the OP, is the underlying reason / intention of sex. If it's consensual, safe, empowering and positive, thumbs up.
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Pichi 🟪🍖🐹🎩 🍡🌸
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Thanks for putting the text into a Google Doc! You are a life saver! It’s a very interesting take, but it felt a little one sided. Almost everyone they interviewed had some terrible trauma that made them want to avoid men more so that be celibate by choice. I guess I’m glad to see it so openly discussed as an option, but I wish they’d dug a little deeper.
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Pichi 🟪🍖🐹🎩 🍡🌸
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Thank you!!
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