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ted (not lasso)
@ted
this "Summer Without Sex" article's focus on celibacy as a path to wellness/happiness and means to fight the patriarchy reads as... misguided??? 1. article conveniently forgets the female-sexual-empowerment-as-a-means-to-fight-the-patriarchy movement 2. which (along with traditional gender norms and the desire to fit in with peers) influences women to have unwanted, consensual sex 3. unwanted, consensual sex is associated with lower happiness (for both men and women) 4. meanwhile, it is well established that people who have more sex and better quality sex are happier 5. strongest moderator of sex quality is relationship closeness and the happiness maximizing # of sexual partners is 1 6. therefore women optimizing for happiness should not necessarily aspire for a summer without sex, but instead for a summer without unwanted sex OR with sex with the right person idk what the patriarchy has to do with it https://www.thecut.com/article/women-celibate-dating-sex.html
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Poison Ivy
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this article mentions patriarchal factors as one of many reasons for celibacy, and is pretty clear on why? also the leap from sex positivity being empowering to unwanted sex is a large one
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ted (not lasso)
@ted
my impression was that the article focused mostly on "decenter men," "boysober," "fight the patriarchy," etc reasons. what was yours? to me, more empowering for a woman to want sexual agency on her own vs as a reaction to men as i point out, sex positivity isn't alone in influencing unwanted sex (pulled from a study)
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