Parenting

Parentcaster

My 5 year old is at a stage where she gets upset by everything we say. If we try to teach her, or if we correct her (wrong word, or how to do something), she immediately snaps back at us, and often breaks down and cries.  Is this a 5 year old thing?

Example:  
Her, throws something
Me: "No throwing"
her screaming: "I KNOW!!!!!"
Me: "I just want you to be respectful and not throw things"
her beginning to breakdown: "I SAID I KNOOOOOOOOWWWW!"

She also gets into this breakdown state often where she can't be reasoned with or talked to, it's really frustrating trying to communicate. She'll run and hide and not talk to us. 😞

My 6 year old is very similar 

He and his mom are VERY reactive to each other so I take the lead on talking to him when he's like this

I try to be clear that what he's doing is attempting to bully me with his emotions and I won't stand for it

"You're using your anger to try and push me around. It's not fair and I won't allow it. If you're big enough to "KNOOOW" then you're big enough to deal with the consequences of your actions" 

I don't have all the answers but I think whoever is less triggered by this behavior needs to take the lead.