Now that we're collectively in a bargaining phase of grief, two things can simultaneously be true:

1) someone can hurt you and shouldn’t be trusted again
2) they, like all humans, carry trauma and deserve compassion

The lesson here IMO is learning how to protect oneself without closing your heart and losing your tenderness

friendly neighborhood shitcaster / building @pinetree

Well said.

I think this situation with Proxy is especially grief-stricken and somewhat difficult to process due to the seemingly genuinely good natured character he had established on FC.

It’s possible he had grown beyond the past indiscretions, it sounds like he hadn’t done anything nefarious with Clanker. But also possible that was all sociopathic and setting up for another calamity.

Things seem to have been handled properly when the Gabagool info came to light. I’m sympathetic for Proxy yet also realize it’s the price he has to pay for committing an egregious betrayal in the past

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agreed. hindsight 20/20 but feel like there would have been a way forward with him continuing as a founder if he had been upfront about things. of course can't say how that would have affected the trajectory of the project and guess it doesn't really matter at this point

Even if someone has done something bad in the past, redemption is possible

However, that requires owning the past and being truthful in the present. The fact that Dish and co did not know (and didn't even hear it from him once it came to light) is enough to assume bad faith