Crystal Hearts

Three years of full-scale war today. A lot can be said about that day and what has happened over the past three years, but I thought I’d share a personal family story and some of the hard decisions that had to be made in the first weeks that I wouldn’t wish on anyone.

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The first 10 days, my family spent mostly in the basement. On the 10th day, there was the biggest attack on my town, with russians conducting airstrikes and dropping aerial bombs from planes on residential buildings. A family of three who lived just around the corner from our house burned alive; there was nothing left, and their remains had to be identified through DNA tracing.

The next week after that, I spent trying to figure out evacuation—the hardest choice I ever had to make in my life. Allowing my mom to stay there during heavy bombardment meant she could be killed by a bomb or missile; at the same time, attempting evacuation at that point could be even worse, as russians were shooting at civilian cars that were trying to evacuate and killing many.

So both possibilities seemed horrible. In the first option, the possible outcome was not only dying but our town potentially being occupied, which could also mean torture, rape, and eventual death, as it was already happening in many cities and villages across Ukraine. In the second option, I could make her evacuate, and she would have gotten killed on the way, and I don’t think I would have been able to live with that.

Either way, the choice had to be made, and I chose to push for evacuation (and my mom gave in; at that point, she was feeling so exhausted and sick after spending most of the time hiding during air raids that wouldn’t end and sleeping in the basement).

And as many of you know, luckily everything ended well and she made it safely all the way to the border with Hungary where I picked her up, and she returned to our hometown after a month away, as soon as it became calmer. Over the past three years, I have had to make a lot of hard decisions for myself with all the aid delivery work on the frontlines, some of which put my own life in a lot of danger and looking back, I’m kinda surprised I’m still alive. But I don’t think any of it will ever compare to those first weeks of war and making those decisions for my family.

As I wasn’t in Ukraine, I had to wake up my mom and tell her that the full-scale war had begun. My family was sleeping and didn’t know that less than 25 miles away, russian troops were already moving toward my hometown, fighter jets were dropping bombs, and civilians were being killed. I kept dialing my mom until she woke up. She was confused and told me they hadn’t heard anything and needed to check the news. A few minutes later, they started hearing explosions and russian fighter jets flying over my hometown.

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Yeah, and so many families went through much worse. So many of us have friends who tried to save their families under occupation, only to learn they were killed and thrown into a mass grave. So many have civilian family members who were captured while trying to evacuate and forced into captivity after passing through filtration camps… And thank you for sharing about yourself and your mother. I will also never forget my mother’s tears and will not forgive. 🫂

For someone, this story will seem like a banal action movie... but unfortunately it's a terrible reality that many Ukrainian families have gone through. I understand your feelings and your mother's feelings... I remember those nights in the basements. I remember my mother's tears that I will never forgive

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Thank you so much for reading! I hope she will share some stories here too! 🫂 When people talk about war, they seem to forget that it’s actual human beings suffering and going through hell. So many don’t have any empathy towards refugees and temporarily displaced people, not wanting to understand how many impossible decisions these people had to make to keep themselves and their families alive and safe while leaving their old lives behind.

Thanks for sharing! My gf is Ukrainian and she also has an “interesting” story to tell… hope she will soon join FC and tell it herself!

Sending you and yours much love, respect and strenght.

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I truly didn't think our generation will have to witness a war of this scale break out in Europe. My heart is with Ukraine. Together until Victory.

Thank you for reading and appreciate your support 🫂

i’m sorry you’ve had to go through this 😓