manansh

don't forgive others.

forgive and ask for forgiveness from the part of you holding onto extreme beliefs about others/situations/yourself. 

- I forgive myself for not understanding
- I forgive this part of me for not understanding
- This part of me forgives me for not understanding

once the part of you that represents the hurt forgives/is forgiven -- you may notice a softening the next time you come in contact with those people/situations.

user experience researcher & treasure hunter /openux || /manansh

all change is within.

action stemming from tension or fear leads to outcomes that create more tension and fear.

action stemming from relaxation/smiling/forgiveness leads to outcomes that create more of those.

hold and act from the context you want more of.

even tho i've experientially realized over and over the power of acting from the right context, something i've always wondered is: 

can fear create action that leads to desirable outcomes too?

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i guess i'm imagining someone way underperforming their potential (we know many ppl like this) by doing something as minor as procrastinating. for some reason they're not motivated by the carrot (the good stuff) but they may be scared of the stick (the bad stuff) if the stick is scary enough (disease, poverty or losing current comfort, no relationships)

could the fear of the stick give them the emotional leverage to completely turn around their life?

btw, there's nothing more i viscerally hate than the idea of it but i wanna put my emotion aside to see to see if we need to give the devil its due

depends on if what is desirable is worth the costs of acting from fear.

it makes a lot of sense that acting from fear for survival sake would be appropriate — the costs justify it.

but for everything else in life, I can’t see how it would help. the cost is just too high.