Does anyone actually have kids because they’re abstractly concerned about globally declining birth rates? (As opposed to actually wanting kids)

Or even because their government offers big financial benefits for having kids as in Scandinavia etc?

I find I just don’t buy that this abstract prosocial concern meaningfully shapes behavior even when translated into “selfish” economic incentives. Kids seem like just too much work to have for any reason besides just wanting them.

I also don’t buy the theory that women sometimes get pregnant to force partners to marry them. Maybe in ultra rare cases.

These alt incentives can at best amplify or enable an existing desire for kids, not create it.

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Kind of hard to not feel like the earth is overflowing with people like the shelters are overflowing with dogs. It’s easy to yammer on about replacement birth rates but if u look around there’s so many people not getting much care. So no, I think it’s for many subjective reasons people have kids. Arguing over replacement rates seems mainly like a rational for trying to control women