Sam (crazy candle person) ✦
@samantha
My grandpa has Alzheimer’s and lives full time with my parents. Luckily he’s very easy to take care of, docile, sweet. Just his memory is not as sharp. I take care of him sometimes when my parents can’t. Today I had a very lucid conversation with him. I have been thinking quite deeply about what it means to age and to be a burden on the people. I asked him if he prefers being at his house or with my parents. He says with my parents and me because we take care of him ☺️ then he called me a farty to break the tension of the serious convo 🤣 We talked about the places he’s travelled to, where he wants to go still. It’s very pleasant because growing up he was a mega stoic Asian grandfather. I don’t think I’ve ever seen him smile or laugh until he got Alzheimer’s and became more dependent on us. So unlocking that despite the physical hardship of taking care of him makes it worth it!
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@wayseeker
That’s so sweet of you and your parents. And so necessary because I truly believe they would rather be with family than with the strangers (in most cases). But I also know it also takes a toll on the Caregivers because it is a lot of work, unpaid work. Like being a stay home parent.
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Sam (crazy candle person) ✦
@samantha
It was a tough adjustment at first for everyone but after a few years it’s just part of the routine. We had him in a elderly home at first but we found that it was overpriced and he wasn’t happy.
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