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Steve
@sdv.eth
Anyone who’s dealt with ADHD long enough: has it ever gotten easier? I feel like since becoming aware of the symptoms the struggle has only worsened, despite always considering myself decently self-aware. I don’t know if it’s just the compounding responsibilities of work, marriage, parenthood, and adulthood. Or if it’s some weird permanent brain fog from covid. Or a tangible side effect of being plugged into crypto almost 24/7 for three years. Or just a dwindling sense of agency and direction and control of emotions. But it’s been six years now that I’ve seen three therapists, one psychiatrist with a brief round of antidepressants, and tried numerous tools and tricks yet it all feels like it’s falling apart. Where did I go wrong?
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erica
@heavygweit
caveat: i was only recently (finally) diagnosed about 2 months ago 😅 so i am in the phase of "wow i am SO aware of all of my symptoms now and what i've had to deal with for the past 30 years" BUT one thing i've noticed that has been a really positive change is i'm way easier on myself now. i used to crap on myself all the time for not being able to build a tooth brushing habit despite trying to do so for 30 years, talking too much, not being able to control the volume of my voice, and other things like that. little did i know my brain struggles with forming habits and impulse control!! being easier on yourself makes living with adhd easier in my 2 months of experience so far lol. i think a lot of the shitty feelings about adhd surround the thinking of "why can't i just do XYZ", "i wish i could be different", "i'm an asshole for talking too much" but being able to accept that some days i can do XYZ and some days i can't has made it a lot more manageable i hope this helps a bit xoxo
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erica
@heavygweit
another big caveat is i've been in therapy almost 2x/month for the past 4 years. i was with a counsellor who wasn't legally allowed to diagnose me and tell me i had adhd, but it turns out for those 4 years she was teaching me a ton of the mental coping strategies adhd folks can benefit from i practiced ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) and somatic therapy - two therapies which are really beneficial for people with ADHD especially so when i got diagnosed, it was like i had been preparing to receive this news and accept myself/integrate my shadow self for several years like @cbxm said, self compassion is key here. i'm happy to share more about ACT and somatic therapy if they sound useful :)
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Steve
@sdv.eth
First I hear of it but I feel like ACT could be huge for me! I’ve done plenty of CBT and some EMDR, would love to learn more if you have resources you’d like to share.
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