my good friend is a 44 and a doctor of like 15 years and I asked him “what do most people regret on their deathbed?” 

they regret working so much and not spending enough time with loved ones

this checks out based on an Australian nurse’s book that she on the most common regrets she had heard

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#1 is the thing that informs all else. 
Many are ‘working hard’ to achieve a level of success to show others what they can be, or to attain status etc. So if you really lean into 1 for some it’s then easier to choose say, spending time with kids over working etc.