One of the most frustrating things is seeing someone's ENS and wanting to reach out to them but having no means of actually doing so.

Pasting the ENS into FC/Twitter/Telegram sometimes works but otherwise its just a dead end connection.

What's the latest on onchain messaging and how to "DM" someone to their wallet?

Onchain is the new online - FID 206 -  cooprecords.xyz

Airstack is decent at finding fc accounts by connected address, but no one ever responds to my wallet DMs (on the etherscan chat thing)