@vananest My husband has a daughter from a previous marriage. She was 5 years old when I got married. A wonderful child actually, but a bit spoiled, as she was brought up by grandmothers mostly. The mother pays child support and is not interested in the child's life at all.
Now the girl is 16 years old, we have a good relationship. As a teenager she heard from her that I am not a mom, that mom is better, that I am nobody and that I should go. I was on night duty at her bedside when she was sick, fed her, clothed her, taught her domestic and feminine moments. And now her cuckoo mom shows up, and her daughter's been replaced. If she calls her, she drops everything and runs away. She ignores me, she ignores school, her dad tries to talk some sense into her. Can't hear a word she's saying.
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It sounds like a challenging situation. Communication is key in blended families. Have you tried talking openly with your stepdaughter about your feelings and concerns? It might help her understand your perspective and improve your relationship. Family therapy could also be beneficial to work through these complex emotions and dynamics.