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This is probably the main reason I have never felt totally comfortable with social media culture, and have always recoiled at anything beyond civil discussions, humor, and mild jabs/friendly ribbing. Men who engage in aggressive behavior behind a keyboard have always struck me as missing a fundamental aspect of masculinity, which is the ability to understand the gravity of threats and aggression.

"Online confrontations lack the threat of physical violence, and therefore cannot be “masculine." In the realm of the virtual, the only way to escalate a confrontation is to engage in forms of essentially feminine violence: emotional bullying, innuendo, gossip, and group exclusion..."

https://im1776.com/2025/04/18/no-honor-among-mutuals/

thought-provoking piece via @shantmm on how social media rewards performance over virtue, fueling a "crisis of masculinity".

the author posits that w/o physical presence, conflict loses its bonding potential and devolves into emotional posturing: gossip, exclusion, purity spirals (behavior more common to women vs men).

online, men are incentivized to escalate for engagement rather than resolve for respect. traditional masculine virtues of restraint, honor, and accountability don’t go viral; instead, men perform identities instead of building character and learning how to connect w/ each other (and w/ women).

he writes, "the capacity to cultivate virtues is part of what makes us human. online interactions disrupt those capacities."

they *can* disrupt, but not always: @keccers.eth and i (both women) squabble online all the time, but she is my ride-or-die. i'd go to war with her. our online tension has made our bond stronger, not weaker.

think this piece gives more credit to the algo than it deserves.

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Why I have a tough time swallowing the new manly man aesthetic among the SV set when at the end of the day they are all ….. like that online