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Something I was thinking about as I was taking a walk w/ @ismene today: I'm overwhelmed by this desire, to help my kids succeed. Ofc I want the best for them. I don't want them to worry or stress too much, I want them to be happy and not be too stressed. Many plants, in the face of extreme cold, or dryness stop growth. Then there's a type of plant, called extremophytes. While most plants produce a stress hormone that acts like a stop signal for growth, with extremophytes, in the face of stressful factors, it accelerates its growth in response to its own stress hormone. Danger is a fertile ground for growth, of course it is dangerous for a reason, and shouldn't be taken lightly. But loving my kids perhaps is going to be sometimes about letting go of this desire to control and engineer success for them at all costs. At times, they are going to have to face stress and become their own person, and solve their own problems Yeah, this is going to be a lot harder than I thought
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I think the only safety net they need is knowing you love them and are proud to get to watch their journey and that feeling is not tied to any outcome they create. That should free their sails to go full speed into the great unknown. Then again what do I know lol, I don’t have any kids! Just speaking to what I remember from being a kid.
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agreed parents believing in / having confidence in their kids, ideally should fully negate all the worries they have
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Idk if it would have fully negated all my worries or even most of them. I just know it would have been enough. Marginal returns would have decreased after that point. Disclaimer: My parents are wonderful this is just what I remember philosophizing (thinking) about as a teen. Also idk if I agree with the word confidence in or believe in. That emphasis the goal and not the journey. Meaning the goal and accomplishing it is correlated. I like the word watching as being the point because then all roads lead to Rome and the outcome becomes unrelated/external again.
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