I have a few early-30s female friends in the USA who are talking about doing the Korea "4B" radical feminist thing. 

I think they don't realize that's not going to work out well for them.  

I did this without some “4B” purpose behind it. I’m not a man hater it’s just that every time I “put myself out there” seems to go worse than simply not trying at all, I’ve been disincentivized 

Ie, the story I told about getting asked out on a date, saying yes and then having the guy spew Trump time travel conspiracies 

He was 6ft+ tall nice looking guy too just stone cold crazy

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I met my partner because I organized a local meetup. Seven years later, they asked me out for drinks, and we going over six years strong since. 

Maybe I'm just lucky (well, I know I am), but if the dating scene is too toxic, then meeting people with shared interests and seeing if you incidentally connect may be the right alternative. It can be a slow (very slow, in my case) burn, but it's worked out terrifically well for me.