Asking "do you agree with my opinion X" feels good in the moment: the other person is more likely to agree, as agreeing feels good.

Asking "what do you think" without pre-supplying your take is riskier. But it's worth it, because you get more information, which is far more valuable than feeling good in the moment.

my new fave is “what am I missing?” 

- forces the person to think
- gives them permission to point out possible errors in your thinking
- invites them to participate in the discovery journey 

cons:
- might force them to find something negative to say just to sound clever. But this is rare.

Front toward enemy. @seyitaylor on twttr. 

What an I missing/stealman the otherside > do you agree (or even what do you think)

Forces an exploration around the edges.