keccers
@keccers.eth
Last night me and 2 of my neighbors went down the street together to 7-11 and watched a lady throw her full fountain drink at the cashier’s head while screaming, and then her probable boyfriend came in to further threaten the guy and rough him up. No one intervened and no police were called because by now there is implicit knowledge nothing will happen between long 911 wait times, understaffed police, and cite + release policies I romanticize my past history in other cities but people tell me to stop — they are all Just Like This now or so I am told
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Jack Lhasa
@jacklhasa
The Bystander effect. Everyone can fall victim to it. Especially if it’s something that is very far from what we experience most often.
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keccers
@keccers.eth
In this case i did not help not because i assumed someone else would but because i felt it too dangerous to
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Jack Lhasa
@jacklhasa
That is often part of it. But it can happen without thought. If we aren’t used to confrontation, or view the situation as something we’d only make worse, our fight or flight instinct just stalls out. No thought. No movement. Only later, thinking back do people question themselves on this, if they ever do. The fact that you know why you didn’t means you’re more self aware than a lot of people. It seems to be worst, when the situation is truly awful. But, I’m not a psychologist. One of those could explain this phenomenon better. 😀
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keccers
@keccers.eth
I am trained in first aid but not in de-escalation or anything. I know my spots. And even at least in my first aid training they emphasized to me, you should never put yourself in a dangerous situation while trying to save someone else. Think about the warning you hear every time on the plane: secure your own mask before assisting others American law has no duty of aid. But once you do set help in motion, things change. Ultimately you have to look out for #1 I feel had I stepped in there, it could have resulted in far worse than what it did
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