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In my experience it’s been a double-edged sword.
On the one hand, being married helped keep me honest and accountable to the discipline of powering through the program (in my case, for 6.5 years. It’s a marathon, not a sprint).
As time went on, the sunk cost fallacy became larger and larger, such that it was increasingly unimaginable that I could give up and have nothing to show for to my spouse, after investing so much effort into the program over the years (and she sharing that burden). But, it becomes a mental game of chicken as to which will be achieved first — the degree or a full mental breakdown!
Being married also took some of domestic burden away (like procuring food, etc) which better allowed me to focus (I was also working a full-time job through the PhD).
For sure, I would have hated trying to date during the program. Every free moment was either spent studying, or feeling guilty of not studying. I would have made for a horrible date. 1/ 2 replies
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