matt

I am still afraid of future failure and embarrassed by past failures, but increasingly less so

Is this getting in the way of living the life you want?

Working on building zkTLS infra/products. A ruthless empiricist and meme connoisseur.

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/eulerlagrange

Your fear of failure is just worrying about a mental state in the future.

You are not your mind, you are not your body. The atoms in your body get cycled every few months iirc, so that’s not you.

Your mind is more tricky to understand. The trick is to see yourself as a continuous thing that can change.

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So failing is an important signal for us to reorganize our internal approach. As a founder who’s come relatively far, I assure you attitude is where a lot of the alpha is.

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So now even your mental state is dynamic changing thing, so that’s not you either. You’re outside of these things.

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There are only two types of suffering in life, mental and physical. If you are outside of both of these then you’re not subject to the misery. Think of the Buddhist monks who can light themselves on fire and sit there.

It’s only when there is no fear of suffering, can you take full strides and experience all life can offer.

When you fear suffering, you take half steps. You only want to do what is safe.

In life, anything can happen 😃

Take this all from a guy who became a founder 2 weeks into moving to nyc.

A year later:

No one is born with the mentality and wiring to achieve the things they want in life, I promise you. You will face adversity and you learn to change to overcome.

It’s really an engineering problem like making a plane. The only reason planes fly is because of adverse wind. In fact the faster the wind the higher you can fly.

When you try and end up crashing, just take a break, and begin again with the same enthusiasm as the first time.

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