Parenting

Parentcaster

for soon-to-be fathers (especially first timers):

1. it is impossible to not make mistakes. you are not perfect. your kid will have traumas. and that is perfectly fine. instead of avoiding them having traumas (which you can’t control), focus on healing -becoming consciously aware of- yours (which you can control). 

2. the important part of the equation is the mother. focus your energy on providing what she needs to tap into the -mostly forgotten- innate and natural motherhood wisdom that is inherent in being woman. at the core of her being, she knows what to do. there is an intuition that is hidden behind layers of insecurities and fear. your mission is to help her feel safe, so that she can tap into that

3. reach out with vulnerability, expressing your own insecurities (especially to other men). the meme of “men don’t cry” is the most stupid invention of humanity

4. remember how to play, and practice that daily

5. buy stretch marks cream and rub her belly every night with tenderness

what else?