ADHD

Anyone who’s dealt with ADHD long enough: has it ever gotten easier?

I feel like since becoming aware of the symptoms the struggle has only worsened, despite always considering myself decently self-aware.

I don’t know if it’s just the compounding responsibilities of work, marriage, parenthood, and adulthood. Or if it’s some weird permanent brain fog from covid. Or a tangible side effect of being plugged into crypto almost 24/7 for three years. Or just a dwindling sense of agency and direction and control of emotions.

But it’s been six years now that I’ve seen three therapists, one psychiatrist with a brief round of antidepressants, and tried numerous tools and tricks yet it all feels like it’s falling apart.

Where did I go wrong?

This thread is pretty amazing. 

What symptoms should one look for to diagnose whether you have ADHD or not?

Unlearning. Full time product manager. Part time builder/tinkerer on farcaster. Bots: @nftsoffc.

I stumbled onto the /r/adhd subreddit and so many stories there described me exactly. I didn't really believe it, but was diagnosed by a psychiatrist afterwards.

coder / founder / investor Founding partner @FirstStarVC 

Loves: AI/ML, data, Bitcoin, climate, techbio, coffee, and pie.

any links to specific stories that struck a cord with you?

For me, it was things like:
* being very calm in chaos / emergencies, and having really hard time simple things (paying bills, sending an email) if there's no external motivators.
* deep obsession w/ certain tasks and have a hard to move my attention off something I'm engrossed in. this is a superpower for a programmer or founder, but sucks for a lot of jobs (and being a parent).
* smaller "working memory" and need a lot of external systems to manage myself (todo list, calendar, religious note taker, ...). also, I have to always put my phone and keys in the exactly same place or will never find them.