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Steve
@sdv.eth
Anyone who’s dealt with ADHD long enough: has it ever gotten easier? I feel like since becoming aware of the symptoms the struggle has only worsened, despite always considering myself decently self-aware. I don’t know if it’s just the compounding responsibilities of work, marriage, parenthood, and adulthood. Or if it’s some weird permanent brain fog from covid. Or a tangible side effect of being plugged into crypto almost 24/7 for three years. Or just a dwindling sense of agency and direction and control of emotions. But it’s been six years now that I’ve seen three therapists, one psychiatrist with a brief round of antidepressants, and tried numerous tools and tricks yet it all feels like it’s falling apart. Where did I go wrong?
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CHIC
@chicbangs.eth
tldr: yes absolutely, hold onto hope! I was diagnosed many years ago, long before it was cute & trendy on social media. I never knew how much masking I was doing in my daily life and I had a lot to unlearn. As I’ve learned more about the nuances in symptoms, my self-acceptance has definitely increased. I had a therapist teach me the value of identifying self-talk and releasing negative thoughts that were on a loop. It took practice, but those old patterns were eventually replaced with healthy ones. You’re already showing that you have a growth mindset vs fixed and that’s truly something to celebrate! Your writing habit seems solid and if you’re not journaling already, that may be a great addition for you! My simple advice: pick one new habit you’d like to add to become part of your routine and when it’s second nature, add another. Those blocks will add up and make a world of difference. And when it feels tough, let yourself feel it and know that you’re not alone.
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Steve
@sdv.eth
I’ve spent maybe 15 years trying to build habits and the biggest mistake I’ve made is trying to do more than one at a time. When one falls though, the others shortly follow. I think one at a time seems really exciting. Like creating a backbone for structure and routine. Also the note of replacing bad patterns with good ones is a great point. I think without finding the replacement, the void gets filled by whatever comes easiest, typically the bad.
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CHIC
@chicbangs.eth
More than one habit at a time has been the way I burnout quickly, for sure. A domino falls and the rest follow. One at a time is more manageable and doesn’t cause overwhelm. Like the approach to laundry of “just fold one shirt” and before you know it, the whole pile is complete.
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Steve
@sdv.eth
Just fold one shirt, just do pushup, just walk for 1 minute, etc etc. All manageable ways to get started on a longer journey 😌
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