Five reasons I think the relationship between Democrats and tech broke:

1. The Democrats are fighting tech more aggressively.
2. The “broken deal” between Democrats and tech.
3. Tech is richer than it used to be.
4. Tech is building in areas in which regulation is more of a direct impediment.
5. "I don't want to live in a world where someone else makes the world a better place... better than we do."

Five reasons I think the relationship between Democrats and tech broke:

1. The Democrats are fighting tech more aggressively.
2. The “broken deal” between Democrats and tech.
3. Tech is richer than it used to be.
4. Tech is building in areas in which regulation is more of a direct impediment.
5. "I don't want to live in a world where someone else makes the world a better place... better than we do."

https://www.notboring.co/p/why-the-democrats-lost-tech

I dont think calling Elon Musk would help. For him, the issue with gender affirming care has become personal. The democrats would have to abandon parts of their own party to cater to him.