In order to create new neural connections, you can familiarize yourself with the difficult works of such prominent minds as:

Predestination. The science of life without free will — Sapolsky

Fooled by chance — Taleb

I can recommend Morgan Howell anyway, there are already enough posts on the channel, but beginners can use the search.

In general, there is only one recommendation — to learn, to learn from experience, to draw conclusions, to focus on the possibilities now, and not to look in the rearview mirror.