I learned quickly that NYC is the same group of dissident layabouts getting drunk and going on coke benders in the same bars with each other every night until maybe one relevant event per month happens. San Francisco is cold, windy, miserable to go out in and the sidewalks are filled with human excrement. Everyone is too autistic to constantly socialize. The only reason worth living in San Francisco is if you have a nice office to go into every day for an elite tech job. These are two cities relevant to culture and they each have an important energy to them but I wouldn't feel fomo for not living there. I much prefer living in the middle of the desert and traveling to these places when something relevant is happening to avoid disillusionment. Online is where it all happens. The timeline is where you shouldn't be missing out, and you can be a resident of the timeline in any physical location. The city you live in doesn't really matter anymore, we are all misfit castaway internet natives now.