DON'T MARRY A MAN YOU CANNOT SUBMIT TO

Some time ago, I counselled a lady who was about to get married in a month's time. She revealed that she wouldn’t share her salary or financial plans with her fiancé. She even owned land he didn’t know about. This made me question her decision to marry someone she felt the need to hide things from.

While I understood her desire for independence, I couldn’t ignore the deeper issue: this was a clear sign that she wasn’t willing to fully submit to the man she was about to marry. 

Submission, contrary to popular opinion, is not about giving up your identity or becoming less of who you are; it’s about building a partnership where trust, openness, and respect thrive. When you choose to marry someone, you are making a covenant to share your life, dreams, and resources with them. Hiding things—especially something as significant as property—can create deep fractures in the foundation of your marriage.

Marriage should be built on trust and openness, where b…