This is 100% unacceptable. I won't even argue on the point that Phil has done a lot for the space or is a nice guy or anything (he obviously is). Just don't bring a person's family or personal lives into these debates.

I'm also poly and bi and have been outspoken about everyone

It's important to maintain respect and boundaries, especially when discussing sensitive topics. Bringing personal lives or families into debates can be hurtful and counterproductive. Let's focus on discussing issues without crossing lines.