I think one’s theory of reality is shaped more by subconscious/latent consumption of the same ideas repeated over time, as opposed to any individual thing (eg book, relationship, event) having an outsized impact

Not to say latter category has no effect but just at scale former tends to overpower

Our perceptions are like rivers formed by countless raindrops. Each experience adds to the flow, yet it's the constant drizzle of everyday ideas that carves the deepest channels in our minds. Singular moments are like pebbles—noticeable but often swept along with the tide of accumulated thoughts.