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Do you need to be obsessed to be successful? Is it possible to have a “healthy” obsession? Currently in my mid 20s, and I feel like if I’m not obsessed I’m not gonna be where I want to be in my 30s. But at the same time I value a healthy lifestyle (been obsessed w games before and its mentally destructive)
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Depends on one’s definition of “successful” and what being “obsessed” looks like to you. E.g., I have a close friend who’s definition of “successful” is getting an office job. I have another who’s definition is being worth $1B. They’re equally “obsessed” with their goal.
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Fair. I think it's the environment. I'm surrounded by staff software engineers in their mid 30s. From what I understand, they loved and coded for fun a lot in their mid 20s. Feels like if I'm not "obsessed" like that, then I can't reach that level. But that demands sacrifice of other things in my life.
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That’s fair. Why do you want to reach that level? If that is in fact what is required, it sounds like you may not actually enjoy it.
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because its the most realistic trajectory with the professional/hard skills I currently have and makes a significant amount of money, I suppose? I think enjoyment is a pretty good insight, and something I have to ponder more. Maybe when I find something that I really want to work on, it will just come naturally
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It does (speaking from experience). Lots of devs also pivot, get an MBA and go to the business side. Consider how you’ll feel 40 years from now if you keep slogging away at something you don’t enjoy. Looking back on it, will you wish you had taken a chance and tried something else? (rhetorical question)
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Shameless plug: stay tuned for a livestream I’m soon going to be piloting on @unlonely where we’ll wrestle through questions like this together (some questions shared anon and some doxed), in an easier non-text format. You’re not alone with this type of question.
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