july

There's a podcast episode where Joe Hudson says:

“Joy is the matriarch of a family of emotions and she won’t come into a house where her children aren’t welcome.”

if you constantly resist or avoid all the 'bad' feelings that you don't want to feel (fear, shame, anger, disgust, etc) you'll never feel joy

This is a banger.

Counterintuitive because most people (myself included) knee-jerk do first-order “avoid bad feelings” and lose out on second-order emotional resilience as a result.