Zach
@zherring
Kids seem to only be doable with some kind of support network, where two is the bare minimum (but not even that works when both have careers). My extremely spicy take is that an industrialization is fundamentally antithetical to family formation. Not saying we go back, but, uh, we should recognize that there are drawbacks to high-mobility high-competition configurations.
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Zach
@zherring
I'm an older dad who hopes to have more. This is both dead on to my experience and not quite right! A little context: I grew up in a religious, rural area. Most of my friends got married very early (19-22ish). The few that didn't, moved to the big city. Everyone who stayed in the rural area, had kids (early on too!). The folks who moved to the big city ... didn't (one even got divorced because he wanted kids). My experience has been that it's less about a peer group (maybe true in your 20s, but I didn't experience that in my 30s when I finally got a career). Much more about resource constraints. Cities and careers aren't **built** for families. But it is a recursive failure mode: the fewer kids there are, the smaller the families, the less is built out **for** them. Like a plant growing as big as the container allows, our society has a capacity problem that families are fitting themselves to. https://warpcast.com/na/0x2662310f
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Ribin Ruck
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when no one near them embarks on the journey of childbearing, it becomes scary. costs are the rational front they put up, not the source of the decision
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