Once Your boundaries have been violated in the past, you start to spend a lot of time being hypervigilant and erecting walls around yourself. A part of you wants to be understood but this fear overcomes this. It's a defense mechanism. An example would be that you wear a jacket when it's winters but you refuse to take off that clothing even when summer is here due to the perceived threat that your brain tells you that it's still a danger to take off that heavy Clothing. You spend a lot of energy being hypervigilant and that exhausts you.

An ADHD millennial trying to fit into the social media buzz yet again after failing at all other apps in hopes to be accepted amongst the smartest people online