Crypto mentality needs to shift to running and developing software that runs locally in addition to providers. That’s how decentralization happens. 

There’s too many lazy people who want everything to be free.

Ethereum

100%, and we've seen this first hand with IPFS. Of course there are levels to this as well. Some protocols are easier to run light clients than others, so there has to be a lot of intentionality with design. Perhaps the answer is building something so good even our own crypto communities can't help but use it.

All pretty true, although 1 is generally from poor optimizations on the client side. Depending how you set things up you can get pretty good performance. For instance I have an IPFS node on my Raspberry Pi, and I have it peered with Pinata's infra so I can access stuff on a peer to peer level faster. When people setup IPFS Desktop they're not gonna have that out of the box, and in general IPFS Desktop is a HORRIBLE client lol. Hence why I think we need to go back to the drawing board on some of this.