Lingyuxiu
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Philosopher: Adler's psychological position is different from this. People who regard life as mountaineers actually regard their lives as a "line". The line that has begun from the moment of birth, drawing all kinds of curves, large and small, finally ushered in the end of "death". However, this idea of understanding life as a story is closely related to Freud's theory of reason, and will regard most of life as "on the road".
Youth: So, what do you think life is like?
Philosopher: Please don't understand life as a line, but as a continuity of points.
If you take a magnifying glass to look at the solid lines drawn with chalk, you will find that the lines you originally thought were actually some continuous dots. Life, which seems to be like a line, is actually a point of continuity, that is to say, life is a continuous moment.
Youth: Continuous moment?
Philosopher: Yes, it is the continuity of the moment of "now". We can only live in the "this moment", and our life only exists in a moment. 0 reply
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It's not affirming yourself, but accepting yourself.
Philosopher: First of all, let's discuss the problem you just mentioned about "being bound by self-consciousness and unable to act unrestrainedly", which may be a problem for many people. Well, let's go back to the original point to see what your "purpose" is. What do you want to get through careful actions?
Young man: In order not to be laughed at and underestimated, this is the idea.
Philosopher: That is to say, you really have no confidence in yourself, do you? That's why I try to avoid showing my true self in interpersonal relationships. When you are alone in the room, you must be able to sing, dance to the music or talk loudly.
Young man: Ha ha ha, let you get it! When I'm alone, I can also be unrestrained. 0 reply
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It's not to affirm yourself, but to accept yourself.
Philosopher: First of all, let's discuss the problem you just mentioned about "being bound by self-consciousness, you can't act unrestrainedly", which may be a problem for many people. Well, let's go back to the beginning to see what your "purpose" is. What do you want to get through careful action?
Youth: In order not to be laughed at and underestimated, this is the idea.
Philosopher: That is to say, you really don't have confidence in yourself, do you? That's why I try to avoid showing my true self in interpersonal relationships. When you are alone in the room, you must be able to sing, dance to the music or talk loudly.
Young man: Ha ha ha, you can get it! I can also be unrestrained when I am alone. 0 reply
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Separate your own "life topics" from others.
Philosopher: For example, there is a child who doesn't like to learn, doesn't listen to classes, doesn't do homework, and even forgets his textbooks at school. So, if you were a parent, what would you do?
Young man: Of course, I will try my best to let him learn! I go to tutoring classes, hire tutors, and sometimes I may even pull my ears. This is the responsibility and obligation of parents. In fact, this is how I grew up - if I can't finish my homework of the day, my parents won't let me have dinner.
Philosopher: Well, let me ask you one more question. Forced to study by this kind of compulsory means, do you finally like learning?
Youth: It's a pity that I didn't like learning. It's just for the study of school or exams. 0 reply
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Philosopher: In a word, your friend has some psychological trauma or other reasons in the past. As a result, he couldn't go outside. Are you trying to explain this?
Youth: That's of course. There must be a reason before the result. I always find him a little strange.
Philosopher: Well, let's assume that the reason why he can't go out is his family environment when he was a child. Suppose he grew up under the abuse of his parents and never experienced the true feelings of the world, so he was afraid of socializing with others so that he closed the door. This situation may exist, right?
Youth: It's very possible. That should cause great psychological trauma.
Philosopher: And you said, "There is a reason before everything turns out." In short, you think that the current me (the result) is determined by the past (the reason). Can you understand it this way?
Youth: Of course.
Philosopher: If, as you said, if everyone's "present" is determined by the "past", isn't it strange? 0 reply
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Philosopher: In a word, your friend has some psychological trauma or other reasons in the past. As a result, he couldn't go outside. Are you trying to explain this?
Youth: That's of course. There must be a reason before the result. I always find him a little strange.
Philosopher: Well, let's assume that the reason why he can't go out is his family environment when he was a child. Suppose he grew up under the abuse of his parents and never experienced the true feelings of the world, so he was afraid of socializing with others so that he closed the door. This situation may exist, right?
Youth: It's very possible. That should cause great psychological trauma.
Philosopher: And you said, "There is a reason before everything turns out." In short, you think that the current me (the result) is determined by the past (the reason). Can you understand it this way?
Youth: Of course.
Philosopher: If, as you said, if everyone's "present" is determined by the "past", isn't it strange? 0 reply
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Youth: When life is a continuous moment, when life only exists at this moment, what is the meaning of life? Why was I born, endured a life full of suffering, and finally ushered in death? I don't understand the reason for this.
Philosopher: What is the meaning of life? What do people live for? When someone asked this question, Adler's answer was: "There is no universal meaning in life."
Youth: Life is meaningless?
Philosophers: For example, war or natural disasters, the world we live in is full of all kinds of unreasonable things. It is also impossible for us to talk about the "meaning of life" in front of children who have been involved in the war and killed. That is to say, there is no meaning in life that can be used as common sense.
However, if you take no action in the face of this unreasonable tragedy, it is equivalent to a tragedy that has definitely happened. No matter what happens, we must take some actions to fight against Kant's tendency. 0 reply
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Philosopher: Moreover, I have an inferiority complex about my education, believing that "I can't succeed because of my low education." On the other hand, it means that "as long as I have a high education, I can also achieve great success."
Youth: Well, that's true.
Philosopher: This is another aspect of the inferiority complex. Those who express their inferiority complex with words or attitudes and those who claim that "because there is A, they can't achieve B", their implication is "as long as there is no A, I will also be a capable and valuable person."
Youth: That is to say, "If it weren't for this, I could have done it." 0 reply
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