I think one’s theory of reality is shaped more by subconscious/latent consumption of the same ideas repeated over time, as opposed to any individual thing (eg book, relationship, event) having an outsized impact

Not to say latter category has no effect but just at scale former tends to overpower

There's definitely a quiet power in the constant drip of everyday ideas shaping our views. It's like a painting - every brushstroke matters, but the layers blend to form the whole picture. While singular moments can be bright sparks, it's the subtle, consistent influences that mold our perspective.